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Tuesday 26 March 2013

[wanita-muslimah] Fw: {GRP} Re: portugheis alberto, Forceful Sexual Relations with Wife "Un-Islamic"

 

 
 
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Subject: {GRP} Re: portugheis alberto, Forceful Sexual Relations with Wife "Un-Islamic"
 

The Islamic way of making love to your wife!

By
Karim
(He is a new convert to Islam, from the Netherlands)

 

 

A husband must exercise intercourse within the Qur'anic paradigm of love and mercy.

 

"The most perfect of believers are those most perfect of character; and the  best of you are the best of you to your spouses." [Tirmidhi, Ibn Hibban]

And of His signs is this: He created for you spouses from yourselves that ye might find rest in them, and He ordained between you love and mercy. Lo! herein indeed are portents  for folk who reflect. (Quran 30:21)


"The best of you are the best to their wives, and I am the best of you with  my wives." [Ibn Hibban]



Foreplay between the spouses before actually engaging into sexual intercourse is immensely important (especially for the wife) and a vital ingredient for a happy and prosperous marriage, that which should never be neglected.

The husband should sexually arouse his wife before having sex. It is indeed selfish on the husband's part that he fulfils his sexual needs and desires, whilst his wife remains unsatisfied and discontented. Failure in satisfying the wife can have terrible consequences on one's marriage.

Thats why the prophet forbade sexual intercouse without foreplay, to guarantee and to protect the sexual pleasures and rights of the wife in bed.

Imam Ibn al-Qayyim (Allah have mercy on him) reports in his famous "Tibb al-Nabawi" that the Messenger of Allah (Allah bless him & give him peace) forbade from engaging in sexual intercourse before foreplay. (See: al-Tibb al-Nabawi, 183, from Jabir ibn Abd Allah)


Islam recognizes a woman's need of love, affection and foreplay.
Women tend to be more romantic than men. They like to hear tender words, to be praised, to feel that they are being cared for, to be the main concern of their husbands and the one to whom he directs his ardent love (thats why the prophet forbade engaging in sexual intercourse before foreplay). In Islam it is a women's right to be satisfied by her husband in bed. Islam stresses the importance of mutual sexual satisfaction between marriage partners in the following quranic verse:

It is lawful for you to go in unto your wives during the night preceding the (day's) fast: they are as a garment for you, and you are as a garment for them. God is aware that you would have deprived yourselves of this right, and so He has turned unto you in His mercy and removed this hardship from you. Now, then, you may lie with them skin to skin, and avail yourselves to that which God has ordained for you.(Qur'an 2:187)


A garment brings satisfaction, comfort, protection and warmness! These are the things a husband must strife to give his wife during intercourse!


Tafsir Ibn Kathir

Allah said:

islamic_way_of_making_love_to_wife_1.jpg (3124 bytes)

(They are Libas [i.e., body-cover, or screen] for you and you are Libas for them.)

Ibn `Abbas, Mujahid, Sa`id bin Jubayr, Al-Hasan, Qatadah, As-Suddi and Muqatil bin Hayyan said that this Ayah means, "Your wives are a resort for you and you for them.''

Source: http://www.tafsir.com/default.asp?sid=2&tid=4805

 

So we clearly see that the sahaba (companions of the prophet) understood that during sexual intercouse each spouse has to be a resort for the other ( by satisfying each others sexuel needs, just like a garment brings comfort and satisfaction)

Also, Muslims are advised to avoid sexual intercourse during menses so as not to cause discomfort to the woman (Quran 2:222).

The Messenger of Allah (Allah bless him & give him peace) also stated: "Every game a person plays is futile except for archery, training one's horse and playing with one's wife(foreplay and kissing) ". (Sunan Tirmidhi, Musnad Ahmad, Sunan Ibn Majah). 

Your wives are as a tilth unto you; so approach your tilth when or how ye will; but do some good act for your souls beforehand; and fear Allah. And know that ye are to meet Him (in the Hereafter), and give (these) good tidings to those who believe. (Quran, 2:223)

The wisedome of Allah swt for using the words 'Your wives are as a tilth unto you' :

Sex is not a thing to be ashamed off, or to be treated lightly , or to be indulged to the excess. It is as solemn a fact as any in life. It is compared to as husbandman's tilth; it is a serious affair to him; he sows the seed in order to reap the harvest. But he chooses his own time and mode of cultivation. He does not sow out of season nor cultivate in a manner which will injure or exhaust the soil. He is wise and considerate and does not run riot. Coming from the simile to human beings, every kind of mutual consideration is required , but above all, we must remember that even in these matters there is a spiritual aspect. We must never forget our souls, and that we are responsible to Allah ( The Meaning of The Holy Qur'an, Abdullah Yusuf Ali, page 90, commentary note 249)  

Commentary of Mawlana-Abul-Ala-Mawdudi:"The farmer sows the seed in order to reap the harvest, but he does not sow it out of season or cultivate it in a manner which will injure or exhaust the soil. He is wise and considerate, and does not run riot." (Afzalur Rahman, Quranic Sciences, London 1981, p.285) 

The words  'and fear Allah (2:223) ' , shows how important it is in Islam for husbands to act in a proper and loving way with their wives during intercourse.

If any of you has sex with his wife let he be true to her. If he attains his pleasure before her then he shouldn't hurry her away until she also attains her pleasure." (narrated by Anas )

Imam al-Daylami (Allah have mercy on him) records a narration on the authority of Anas ibn Malik (Allah be pleased with him) that the Messenger of Allah (Allah bless him & give him peace) is reported to have said: "One of you should not fulfil one's (sexual) need from one's wife like an animal, rather there should be between them foreplay of kissing and words." (Musnad al-Firdaws Of al-Daylami, 2/55)


 

Kissing:

Kissing one's spouse is also of utmost importance in general. It is a Sunnah of our blessed Messenger of Allah (Allah bless him & give him peace).

Sayyida A'isha (Allah be pleased with her) narrates that the Messenger of Allah (Allah bless him & give him peace) would kiss one of his wives and then leave for prayer (salat) without performing ablution (wudu). Urwa says that I asked A'isha: "It must have been you?" (Upon hearing this) A'isha (Allah be pleased with her) smiled." (Sunan al-Tirmidhi, no. 86, Sunan Abu Dawud, no. 181 & Sunan al-Nasa'i, no. 170)) 

Sayyida A'isha (Allah be pleased with her) says: "The Messenger of Allah (Allah bless him & give him peace) would kiss me before leaving for prayers, and he would not perform an ablution." (Sunan al-Darqutni, 1/49 and others) 

The above two narrations indicate the recommendation of kissing one's spouse. They also show the importance of greeting the wife when entering the house with a kiss and departing with a kiss. This was the Sunnah of the beloved of Allah (Allah bless him & give him peace). Thus, it is inappropriate for husbands to leave the home in a hurry without even greeting the wife in a proper manner with hugs and kisses, and then entering the house with the first question on whether the food is cooked or not, or whether had someone called, etc…

Passionate kissing (or French kissing) is also the Sunnah of the Messenger of Allah (Allah bless him & give him peace).

Sayyida A'isha (Allah be pleased with her) narrates that the Messenger of Allah (Allah bless him & give him peace) would kiss her whilst he was fasting and he would suck her tongue." (Sunan Abu Dawud, no. 2378)

See also:

http://www.islamonline.net/servlet/Satellite?pagename=IslamOnline-English-Ask_Scholar/FatwaE/FatwaE&cid=1119503548922



On Tue, Mar 26, 2013 at 7:35 AM, Farrukh Abidi <farrukhabidi@yahoo.com> wrote:
Thank you showing your mentality, you are now in my block list.

I don't like to waste my time with the people like you.

Farrukh Abidi

--- On Tue, 3/26/13, portugheis alberto <alberto_portugheis@yahoo.co.uk> wrote:

From: portugheis alberto <alberto_portugheis@yahoo.co.uk>
Subject: Forceful Sexual Relations with Wife "Un-Islamic"
To: "TARIQ KHAN" <tariqkhanteekay@hotmail.com>, a.bais.s@gmail.com, farrukhabidi@yahoo.com
Cc: "iftekhar.hai@gmail.com" <iftekhar.hai@gmail.com>, "Javid Refai" <javidr@aol.com>, "Shafi Refai" <srefai@hotmail.com>, "Riffat Mahmood" <syedrmahmood5@yahoo.com>, "Raheel Hussain" <imraheelhussain@gmail.com>, "qaseem39us@yahoo.com" <qaseem39us@yahoo.com>, makdmc@gmail.com, "kasur66@yahoo.com" <kasur66@yahoo.com>, "global-right-path@googlegroups.com" <global-right-path@googlegroups.com>, "Iftekhar Hai" <umah.hai@hotmail.com>, "islamofallah@googlegroups.com" <islamofallah@googlegroups.com>, "AhleQuran YG" <ahle-quran@yahoogroups.com>, "progressive-muslim@yahoogroups.com" <progressive-muslim@yahoogroups.com>, "marwanyafi@yahoogroups.com" <marwanyafi@yahoogroups.com>, "jax_muslims@yahoogroups.com" <jax_muslims@yahoogroups.com>, "in_quraanic_light@yahoogroups.com" <in_quraanic_light@yahoogroups.com>, "qasim_abbas@hotmail.com" <qasim_abbas@hotmail.com>, "m_nadeem_sheikh@hotmail.com" <m_nadeem_sheikh@hotmail.com>, "Muhammad Latif Chaudhery" <latif.m.chaudhery@gmail.com>, "Syed Ali" <sabahatca@hotmail.com>, "zafariqbaldr@gmail.com" <zafariqbaldr@gmail.com>, "MASOOD NADVI" <alnadvi@hotmail.com>, "afsaz@rogers.com" <afsaz@rogers.com>, "Azmat-Ullah Khan" <azmatullah@gmail.com>, asifkhan514@yahoo.com, yasmeen.a.9@gmail.com, uroojsayyami@gmail.com, sdkazi2004@yahoo.com, muhammad.farhan@gmail.com, waheed.hamid07@gmail.com, zubair432@gmail.com, najma.sadeque.ns@gmail.com, sharfuddinmanzoor@yahoo.com, fakharalamsiddiqi@hotmail.com, hasanofmeher@yahoo.co.uk, drjamilrizvi@yahoo.com, kaleemjavediqbal@gmail.com
Received: Tuesday, March 26, 2013, 10:29 AM

Allah has no mother or father, brothers or sisters, friends, doesn't have anybody, as he is one and unique, according to those who believe in Allah/God. He could be She, or have no Gender, as to be a man or a woman we must be born from the union of a man and a woman.
 
Furthermore, Allah never married or had children, so......what does Allah know about sex or love, masturbation or rape?

The healthiest way to understand human nature is to look at nature. How do we come to the world 9 months after our parents enjoyed themselves in an act of sex/love? naked. How did people live on earth for many thousands of years, before something to protect themselves from cold, rain, sun, etc, was invented? naked.
 
So, the state of nudity is the most natural and human condition we possess. 

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http://Twitter.com/APortugheis

--- On Mon, 25/3/13, Farrukh Abidi <farrukhabidi@yahoo.com> wrote:

From: Farrukh Abidi <farrukhabidi@yahoo.com>
Subject: {GRP} Re: Forceful Sexual Relations with Wife "Un-Islamic"
To: "TARIQ KHAN" <tariqkhanteekay@hotmail.com>, a.bais.s@gmail.com
Cc: "iftekhar.hai@gmail.com" <iftekhar.hai@gmail.com>, "Javid Refai" <javidr@aol.com>, "Shafi Refai" <srefai@hotmail.com>, "Riffat Mahmood" <syedrmahmood5@yahoo.com>, "Raheel Hussain" <imraheelhussain@gmail.com>, "qaseem39us@yahoo.com" <qaseem39us@yahoo.com>, makdmc@gmail.com, "kasur66@yahoo.com" <kasur66@yahoo.com>, "global-right-path@googlegroups.com" <global-right-path@googlegroups.com>, "Iftekhar Hai" <umah.hai@hotmail.com>, "islamofallah@googlegroups.com" <islamofallah@googlegroups.com>, "AhleQuran YG" <ahle-quran@yahoogroups.com>, "progressive-muslim@yahoogroups.com" <progressive-muslim@yahoogroups.com>, "marwanyafi@yahoogroups.com" <marwanyafi@yahoogroups.com>, "jax_muslims@yahoogroups.com" <jax_muslims@yahoogroups.com>, "in_quraanic_light@yahoogroups.com" <in_quraanic_light@yahoogroups.com>, "qasim_abbas@hotmail.com" <qasim_abbas@hotmail.com>, "m_nadeem_sheikh@hotmail.com" <m_nadeem_sheikh@hotmail.com>, "Muhammad Latif Chaudhery" <latif.m.chaudhery@gmail.com>, "Syed Ali" <sabahatca@hotmail.com>, "zafariqbaldr@gmail.com" <zafariqbaldr@gmail.com>, "MASOOD NADVI" <alnadvi@hotmail.com>, "afsaz@rogers.com" <afsaz@rogers.com>, "Azmat-Ullah Khan" <azmatullah@gmail.com>, asifkhan514@yahoo.com, yasmeen.a.9@gmail.com, uroojsayyami@gmail.com, sdkazi2004@yahoo.com, muhammad.farhan@gmail.com, waheed.hamid07@gmail.com, zubair432@gmail.com, najma.sadeque.ns@gmail.com, sharfuddinmanzoor@yahoo.com, fakharalamsiddiqi@hotmail.com, hasanofmeher@yahoo.co.uk, drjamilrizvi@yahoo.com, kaleemjavediqbal@gmail.com
Date: Monday, 25 March, 2013, 0:50

Assalamu alaikum to all Muslims

Mr. Tariq! Are you in your sense? your statement does not prove it.
Your are calling such a misguided article as "educated" article?

This term "marital rape" is introduced by the misguided and cursed nation and you
are so impressed?

Have you studied Islam? If yes, please tell me from who, kuffaar, jews, hundus or from Muslims? Or you are self made scholar?

This article written by Iftikhar Hai is full of misguidance and you are advising to circulate?
And why are you recommending women to read it, what to do women from it? Are you
trying to misguide Muslim women?

Marital rape is the cursed on the people who introduced it, and you are trying to create the space in Islam and Muslims?

Being a respectful person, the minimum thing which required is
cloths, do you think those who deprived women from even this
minimum thing
, would they worry about anything else for them?

I have more to say about this term "marital rape" I will say some
other time but for now just say that there is no such thing "marital rape"
in Islam.

Please learn Islam through Muslims not kuffaar?

Farrukh Abidi


--- On Sun, 3/24/13, Syed Abdul Bais <a.bais.s@gmail.com> wrote:

From: Syed Abdul Bais <a.bais.s@gmail.com>
Subject: Re: {GRP} Forceful Sexual Relations with Wife "Un-Islamic"
To: "TARIQ KHAN" <tariqkhanteekay@hotmail.com>
Cc: "iftekhar.hai@gmail.com" <iftekhar.hai@gmail.com>, "Javid Refai" <javidr@aol.com>, "Shafi Refai" <srefai@hotmail.com>, "Riffat Mahmood" <syedrmahmood5@yahoo.com>, "Raheel Hussain" <imraheelhussain@gmail.com>, "qaseem39us@yahoo.com" <qaseem39us@yahoo.com>, "kasur66@yahoo.com" <kasur66@yahoo.com>, "global-right-path@googlegroups.com" <global-right-path@googlegroups.com>, "Iftekhar Hai" <umah.hai@hotmail.com>, "islamofallah@googlegroups.com" <islamofallah@googlegroups.com>, "AhleQuran YG" <ahle-quran@yahoogroups.com>, "progressive-muslim@yahoogroups.com" <progressive-muslim@yahoogroups.com>, "marwanyafi@yahoogroups.com" <marwanyafi@yahoogroups.com>, "jax_muslims@yahoogroups.com" <jax_muslims@yahoogroups.com>, "in_quraanic_light@yahoogroups.com" <in_quraanic_light@yahoogroups.com>, "qasim_abbas@hotmail.com" <qasim_abbas@hotmail.com>, "m_nadeem_sheikh@hotmail.com" <m_nadeem_sheikh@hotmail.com>, "Muhammad Latif Chaudhery" <latif.m.chaudhery@gmail.com>, "Syed Ali" <sabahatca@hotmail.com>, "zafariqbaldr@gmail.com" <zafariqbaldr@gmail.com>, "MASOOD NADVI" <alnadvi@hotmail.com>, "afsaz@rogers.com" <afsaz@rogers.com>, "Azmat-Ullah Khan" <azmatullah@gmail.com>
Received: Sunday, March 24, 2013, 6:27 PM

Masturbation in Islam

Allah (Exalted is He) says: "And those who guard their private parts from their wives and those (slave-girls) which their right-hands own - so there is no blame upon them. Then whoever seeks beyond that (which is lawful), they are the transgressors".

Masturbation is also considered as "seeking beyond" with reference to the Quranic verse above.

Suhail son of Sai'd (may Allah be pleased with them) narrates that the Holy Prophet (Allah's' Grace & Peace be upon him) said: Whoever gives me the assurance (not to unlawfully use) what is between their jaws and their legs (i.e. the tongue and the private parts), I give them the assurance of the Heaven. (Bukhari)

Abu Hurrairah (may Allah be pleased with him) narrates that the Prophet of Allah (Allah's Grace & Peace be upon him) said: Whoever Allah protects, from the evil (sh'r) of what is between their jaws and between their legs, will enter Paradise. [Tirimzi]

Imam Shamsuddin Zahabbi (may Allah be pleased with him) narrates a Prophetic narration that, "Seven people are such that Allah has cursed them and He will not even cast a look of mercy upon them on the Day of Judgment. Allah will tell them to enter Hell with the people who are going to Hell, except those who repent.
1. One who performs the act of sodomy.
2. One upon whom the act of sodomy is performed.
3. One who does bad deeds with animals.
4. One who marries his mother or sister.
5. One who masturbates." (The words of the hadith says these seven people but lists five - Kitab-ul-Kaba'ir p.48)

Allama Mahmood Alussi (may Allah be pleased with him) narrates in Ruh-ul-Ma'ni: "Atta (may Allah be pleased with him) says that I have heard that on the Day of Judgment one group will be brought in such a way that their hands will be pregnant. I think they are the masturbators." Allama Alussi further says: Saéed bin Jubayr (may Allah be pleased with him) narrates that the Prophet (Allah's Grace & Peace be upon him) said: "Allah Exalted will inflict punishment on a group of people because they misused their private parts." (Ruh-ul-Ma'ni p. 291)

Anas (may Allah be pleased with him) narrates that the Prophet of Allah (may Allah be pleased with him) said: "The person who performs marriage [nikah] with his hands (i.e. masturbates) is cursed." (Fatawa Razaviyya, Vol. 10, p.80)

Abdullah bin Masood (may Allah be pleased with him) reports that the Holy Prophet (Allah's Grace & Peace be upon him) said: "O group of youth! Whoever from among you can marry should do so because it keeps the gaze low and it protects the private parts. And he who cannot marry should fast because fasting breaks lust." (Muslim – Book of Marriage)

Mufti Waqar-ud-din Al-Qadri (Hanfi) writes in "Waqar-ul-Fatawa" (Vol. 1, P. 269): "If a person is overpowered by sexual desire such that there is fear of him becoming involved in adultery or he is not capable of marrying or his wife is so far that he can't go there. Then it is hoped there is no punishment for the one doing this [masturbation]. It is written in "Durr-e-Mukhtar" (Vol. 2, Pp 109) (by Sheikh Alla'ud Din Muhammed son of Ali Haskiffi, died 1088H): 'If there is fear of committing adultery then it is hoped that there is no punishment on the one doing this (masturbation)'. Allama (Syed Mohammed Amin Ash-Shaheerba Bin Abideen) Shammi, (may Allah's mercy be upon him, died 1253H) has also argued on this quite a lot and decided that if he does this with the intention of saving himself from committing sin it will not be a sin and if he does it with the intention of enjoyment he will be a sinner."

The Holy Prophet (Allah's Grace & Peace be upon him) said, "No doubt the virtues wipe away the sins". Therefore a masturbator must repent sincerely with an intention that he will never commit it again and do good deeds. According to a Prophetic narration, "The one who repents is like the who does not have any sin."



On Sat, Mar 23, 2013 at 5:33 PM, TARIQ KHAN <tariqkhanteekay@hotmail.com> wrote:
Educative  article.  Highly  commenable.  Ladies  must  read  and  be  circulated  more  and  more.  Good  work  Irshad  Mehmood.....  Tariq Khan.
 

Date: Sat, 23 Mar 2013 08:30:00 -0700
Subject: {GRP} Forceful Sexual Relations with Wife "Un-Islamic"
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CONCEPT OF MARITAL RAPE IN ISLAM

 

Asghar Ali Engineer

Interpreter of Quranic Wisdom

 

Until yesterday woman was considered man's property after marriage and sexual gratification with her was considered his absolute right. She could not deny her husband this right whether she wanted or not. In early eighties of the last century Sisters in Islam, a women's organization in Malaysia sent me a query whether there is anything like concept of 'marital rape' in Islam.

 

I went through all available traditional Islamic literature and found nothing of the kind and reluctantly replied that such a concept does not exist. I also studied literature on women's movement in various countries and found that no such concept exists in western laws too. But then I came across a judgment of a British court which came out with this concept and pronounced husband of a woman guilty for forcing himself on an unwilling wife.

 

This set me thinking and urged me to study Qur'an from this angle. As we all know most of the Qur'anic verses revealed over a period of 23 years were in response to some or the other problem which arose in the Prophet's (PBUH) life. It seems no such problem arose as women in those days also considered it as their duty to surrender quietly to their husbands' sexual demands. If not husband who else could make such demand? For the same reason hadith literature was also silent on this question.

 

But mere silence does not mean approval. Qur'an is also silent about punishment for drinking. Does it mean drinking could be allowed? Not at all. The punishment for drinking was prescribed through analogical reasoning. Also, the Prophet (PBUH) was strongly in favour of ijtihad based on Qur'anic values and values of sunnah. It is also important to note that it would amount to injuring basic spirit of Qur'an to assign fixed meanings to its verses.

 

If Qur'an is a book of eternal guidance specially in new situations arising from time to time, one must have freedom to rethink meaning of its verses in these novel situations. Also, what is more important to note is that Qur'an was not meant for guidance of one or two generations of Arabs but was meant to guide entire humanity of all the times to come. It is true the Qur'an addresses some specific problems of immediate relevance to the Arabs of the time.

 

But Qur'an is much more than that. It gives certain eternal moral and ethical values and a transcendent vision going much beyond the time it was revealed in. Only persons of great future vision could capture this spirit of Qur'an. Again it was for this reason that its verses, ever dynamic and pregnant with meaning were interpreted in different ways. Also, if we confine Qur'an to Arab culture, customs and traditions, Qur'an will loose much of its relevance for coming ages.

 

What Qur'an prescribed by way of women's rights was revolutionary enough. It gave to women what no woman could have imagined at the time. Yet because of severe constraints of time and extremely low consciousness of women themselves its revolutionary character was greatly diluted. Now times are changing fast and women's consciousness is not what it was when the Ulama of the time were formulating Shari'ah laws. The whole approach to the divine text has to change in keeping with the transcendent vision of our own times.

 

This requires not only the study of Qur'an in great depth but more than that its real vision. In the past ulama, in keeping with spirit of their own times considered women, above anything else, a reproductive agent and also, means for gratification of men's sexual desires and sadly even interpreted verses on polygamy and possession of slave girls in this light and even contemporary ulama talk of polygamy as necessary as women go through menstrual cycles and pregnancy and hence need more women than one to gratify their sexual desire. Nothing could be more absurd than this.

 

Even a cursory study of Qur'an makes it clear that a woman is as much a spiritual entity with dignity of her own and in no case lesser in dignity than that of man. Qur'an repeatedly advises men to treat women in all matters including marriage, divorce and even weaning of children, with utmost sensitivity, compassion and mercy. The Prophet gave her greatest respect both as a mother and wife.

 

It was for this reason that when women asked the Prophet (PBUH) about their status the verse 33:35 was revealed and gave women most exalted spiritual status. How can then be they treated as mere object of sexual desire as most of our ulama reduce them to? Sexual desire is not the end but means of perpetuating human species and women has more exalted status in this respect as they fulfill the reproductive function and but for them, human species would be extinct. Men thus cannot treat women as an object of sexual desire but most noble means of perpetuating human race.

 

Thus any attempt to force women to merely fulfill men's lust would be un-Qur'anic in spirit and against her dignity and would amount to marital rape. What is rape after all? To force oneself on her injuring her human dignity be it within or outside marital frame-work. Love and tenderness are most fundamental for going near women. It is these feelings according to Qur'an which creates strong marital bond. If there is no love and tenderness such a marriage is nothing more than legal fiction for rape.

 
 
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