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--- In wanita-muslimah@yahoogroups.com, Dwi Soegardi <soegardi@...> wrote:
>
> Mas Hadi,
>
> apa kabar, lama tak muncul?
> lho kok ujug2 kirim artikel,
> bau-bau tulisan dari "dunia lain"
> ternyata bener dari "faithfreedom"
>
> ya ngga papa lah,
> tapi mbok ya disertakan linknya.
>
> silakan dibahas ....
>
> salam,
>
>
>
> On Tue, Jul 2, 2013 at 9:44 PM, Hadi Setyono <hadi_st@...> wrote:
>
> > **
> >
> >
> > Ketidakpuasan Istri-Istri Nabi Muhammad
> >
> > Muslim sering sesumbar dan berdalih bahwa di tengah iklim poligami pun,
> > istri-istri Muhammad tetap bahagia dan rumah tangganya sakinah, mawaddah
> > dan warohmah. Konon tidak ada ketidakpuasan diantara mereka. Bukti-bukti
> > berikut membungkam mitos tersebut!
> > Daftar isi
> > [sembunyikan]
> >
> > 1 Ditempeleng Ketika Minta Uang
> > 2 Ketidakpuasan Atas Poligami Muhammad
> > 3 Istri-istri Muhammad Protes dan Ngambek
> > 4 Para Istri Sakit Hati dengan Aisyah, Zainad dan Um Salama Protes.
> > 5 Nafas Muhamad Berbau
> >
> > Ditempeleng Ketika Minta Uang
> >
> > Abu Bakar menempeleng Aisyah dan Umar menempeleng Hafsah. Muhammad cuma
> > tertawa:
> >
> > Jabir b. `Abdullah (Allah be pleased with them) reported: Abu Bakr (Allah
> > be pleased with him) came and sought permission to see Allah's Messenger
> > (may peace be upon him). He found people sitting at his door and none
> > amongst them had been granted permission, but it was granted to Abu Bakr
> > and he went in. Then came 'Umar and he sought permission and it was granted
> > to him, and he found Allah's Apostle (may peace be upon him) sitting sad
> > and silent with his wives around him. He (Hadrat 'Umar) said: I would say
> > something which would make the Holy Prophet (may peace be upon him) laugh,
> > so he said: Messenger of Allah, I wish you had seen (the treatment meted
> > out to) the daughter of Khadija when she asked me some money, and I got up
> > AND SLAPPED HER on her neck. Allah's Messenger (may peace be upon him)
> > LAUGHED and said: They are around me as you see, asking for extra money.
> > Abu Bakr (Allah be pleased with him) then got up went to 'A'isha (Allah be
> > pleased with her) AND SLAPPED HER on the neck, and 'Umar stood up before
> > Hafsa and slapped her saying: You ask Allah's Messenger (may peace be upon
> > him) which he does not possess. They said: By Allah, we do not ask Allah's
> > Messenger (may peace be upon him) for anything he does not possess. Then he
> > withdrew from them for a month or for twenty-nine days. Then this verse was
> > revealed to him: "Prophet: Say to thy wives… for a mighty reward" (xxxiii.
> > 2. He then went first to 'A'isha (Allah be pleased with her) and said: I
> > want to propound something to you, 'A'isha, but wish no hasty reply before
> > you consult your parents. She said: Messenger of Allah, what is that? He
> > (the Holy Prophet) recited to her the verse, whereupon she said: Is it
> > about you that I should consult my parents, Messenger of Allah? Nay, I
> > choose Allah, His Messenger, and the Last Abode; but I ask you not to tell
> > any of your wives what I have said. He replied: Not one of them will ask me
> > without my informing her. God did not send me to be harsh, or cause harm,
> > but He has sent me to teach and make things easy. (Sahih Muslim, Book 009,
> > Number 3506)
> > Ketidakpuasan Atas Poligami Muhammad
> >
> > Muhammad melanggar sendiri Quran surat an-Nisaa' 4:3 dengan poligami lebih
> > dari empat. Menurut Qurat surat al-Ahzab 33:51, Muhammad boleh memilih
> > semaunya kapan dan dengan istri yang mana ia mau menghabiskan waktu
> > sekehendak hasratnya. Akibatnya, Aisyah, istri kanak-kanaknya, merasa
> > tertekan atas perilaku egois Muhammad dan betapa gegabahnya si Allah
> > memenuhi kemauan dan nafsu nabiNya:
> >
> > Narrated Aisha:
> > I used to look down upon those ladies who had given themselves to Allah's
> > Apostle and I used to say, "Can a lady give herself (to a man)?" But when
> > Allah revealed: "You (O Muhammad) can postpone (the turn of) whom you will
> > of them (your wives), and you may receive any of them whom you will; and
> > there is no blame on you if you invite one whose turn you have set aside
> > (temporarily)." (33.51) I said (to the Prophet), "I feel that YOUR LORD
> > HASTENS in FULFILLING YOUR WISHES and DESIRES." (Sahih al-Bukhari, Volume
> > 6, Book 60, Number 311)
> >
> > Narrated Muadha:
> > 'Aisha said, "Allah's Apostle used to take the permission of that wife
> > with whom he was supposed to stay overnight if he wanted to go to one other
> > than her, after this Verse was revealed:-- 'You (O Muhammad) can postpone
> > (the turn of) whom you will of them (your wives) and you may receive any
> > (of them) whom you will; and there is no blame on you if you invite one
> > whose turn you have set aside (temporarily).'" (33.51) I asked Aisha, "What
> > did you use to say (in this case)?" She said, "I used to say to him, `If I
> > could deny you the permission (to go to your other wives) I would not allow
> > your favor to be bestowed on any other person.'" (Sahih al-Bukhari, Volume
> > 6, Book 60, Number 312)
> > Istri-istri Muhammad Protes dan Ngambek
> >
> > Umar bin Khattab Menasehatkan Hafsah agar Tabah Bila Muhammad Lebih
> > Menyukai Aisyah
> >
> > Then `Umar went on relating the narration and said. "I and an Ansari
> > neighbor of mine from Bani Umaiya bin Zaid who used to live in `Awali
> > Al-Medina, used to visit the Prophet in turns. He used to go one day, and I
> > another day. When I went I would bring him the news of what had happened
> > that day regarding the instructions and orders and when he went, he used to
> > do the same for me. We, the people of Quraish, used to have authority over
> > women, but when we came to live with the Ansar, we noticed that the Ansari
> > women had the upper hand over their men, so our women started acquiring the
> > habits of the Ansari women. Once I shouted at my wife and she paid me back
> > in my coin and I disliked that she should answer me back. She said, `Why do
> > you take it ill that I retort upon you? By Allah, THE WIVES OF THE PROPHET
> > RETORT UPON HIM, AND SOME OF THEM MAY NOT SPEAK WITH HIM FOR THE WHOLE DAY
> > TILL NIGHT.' What she said scared me and I said to her, `Whoever amongst
> > them does so, will be a great loser.' Then I dressed myself and went to
> > Hafsa and asked her, `Does ANY OF YOU KEEP ALLAH's APOSTLE ANGRY ALL THE
> > DAY LONG TILL NIGHT ?' She replied in the affirmative. I said, `She is a
> > ruined losing person (and will never have success)! Doesn't she fear that
> > Allah may get angry for the anger of Allah's Apostle and thus she will be
> > ruined? Don't ask Allah's Apostle too many things, and don't retort upon
> > him in any case, and don't desert him. Demand from me whatever you like,
> > and don't be tempted to imitate your neighbor (i.e. `Aisha) in her behavior
> > towards the Prophet), FOR SHE (i.e. Aisha) IS MORE BEAUTIFUL THAN YOU, AND
> > MORE BELOVED to Allah's Apostle. (Sahih al-Bukhari, Volume 3, Book 43,
> > Number 648)
> >
> > dan...
> >
> > Narrated Ibn `Abbas:
> > that `Umar entered upon Hafsa and said, "O my daughter! Do not be misled
> > by the manners of her who is proud of her beauty because of the love of
> > Allah's Apostle for her." By `her' he meant `Aisha. `Umar added, "Then I
> > told that to Allah's Apostle and he smiled (on hearing that)." (Sahih
> > al-Bukhari, Volume 7, Book 62, Number 145)
> > Para Istri Sakit Hati dengan Aisyah, Zainad dan Um Salama Protes.
> >
> > Timbul Pertengkaran!
> >
> > Narrated `Urwa from `Aisha: The wives of Allah's Apostle were in two
> > groups. One group consisted of 'Aisha, Hafsa, Safiyya and Sauda; and the
> > other group consisted of Um Salama and the other wives of Allah's Apostle.
> > The Muslims knew that Allah's Apostle loved `Aisha, so if any of them had a
> > gift and wished to give to Allah's Apostle, he would delay it, till Allah's
> > Apostle had come to `Aisha's home and then he would send his gift to
> > Allah's Apostle in her home. The group of Um Salama discussed the matter
> > together and decided that Um Salama should request Allah's Apostle to tell
> > the people to send their gifts to him in whatever wife's house he was. Um
> > Salama told Allah's Apostle of what they had said, but he did not reply.
> > Then they (those wives) asked Um Salama about it. She said, "He did not say
> > anything to me." They asked her to talk to him again. She talked to him
> > again when she met him on her day, but he gave no reply. When they asked
> > her, she replied that he had given no reply. They said to her, "Talk to him
> > till he gives you a reply." When it was her turn, she talked to him again.
> > He then said to her, "Do not hurt me regarding Aisha, AS THE DIVINE
> > INSPIRATIONS DO NOT COME TO ME ON ANY OF THE BEDS EXCEPT THAT OF AISHA." On
> > that Um Salama said, "I repent to Allah for hurting you." Then the group of
> > Um Salama called Fatima, the daughter of Allah's Apostle and sent her to
> > Allah's Apostle to say to him, "Your wives request to treat them and the
> > daughter of Abu Bakr ON EQUAL TERMS." Then Fatima conveyed the message to
> > him. The Prophet said, "O my daughter! Don't you love whom I love?" She
> > replied in the affirmative and returned and told them of the situation.
> > They requested her to go to him again but she refused. They then sent
> > Zainab bint Jahsh who went to him AND USED HARSH WORDS SAYING, "Your wives
> > request you TO TREAT THEM and the daughter of Ibn Abu Quhafa ON EQUAL
> > TERMS." On that she raised her voice AND ABUSED `Aisha TO HER FACE so much
> > so that Allah's Apostle looked at `Aisha to see whether she would retort.
> > `Aisha started replying to Zainab till she silenced her. The Prophet then
> > looked at `Aisha and said, "She is really the daughter of Abu Bakr." (Sahih
> > al-Bukhari, Volume 3, Book 47, Number 755)
> >
> > Para istri Muhammad tidak bahagia dengan kondisi rumah tangganya!!
> > Nafas Muhamad Berbau
> >
> > Menurut muffasir Quran Abdullah Yusuf Ali, ayat s.66:1 muncul
> > dilatarbelakangi peristiwa berikut:
> >
> > The Prophet's household was unlike any other households. The Consorts of
> > Purity were expected to hold a higher standard in behaviour and reticence
> > than ordinary women, as they had higher work to perform… But they were
> > human beings after all, and were subject to the weaknesses of their sex,
> > and they sometimes failed. The commentators usually cite the following
> > incident in connection with the revelation of these verses. It is narrated
> > from Aisha, the wife of the holy Prophet (peace be upon him) by Bukhari,
> > Muslim, Nasai, Abu Dawud and others that the holy Prophet usually visited
> > all his wives daily after `Asr Prayer. Once it so happened that he stayed
> > longer than usual at the quarters of Zainab bint Jash, for she had received
> > from somewhere some honey which the holy Prophet liked very much. "At
> > this," says `Aisha, "I felt jealous, and Hafsa, Sawda, Safiya, and I agreed
> > among ourselves that when he visits us each of us would tell him that a
> > peculiar odour came from his mouth as a result of what he had eaten, for we
> > knew that he was particularly sensitive to offensive smells". So when his
> > wives hinted at it, he vowed that he would never again use honey. Thereupon
> > these verses were revealed reminding him that he should not declare to
> > himself unlawful that which Allah had made lawful to him.** The important
> > point to bear in mind is that he was at once rectified by revelation, which
> > reinforces the fact that the prophets are always under divine protection,
> > and even the slightest lapse on their part is never left uncorrected.
> > (Abdullah Yusuf Ali, Holy Qur'an: Translation and Commentary, fn. 5529)
> >
> > Allah sekali lagi menegaskan bahwa Muhamad tidak boleh mengharamkan apa yg
> > dihalalkan baginya, alias nabi tidak perlu mematuhi janjinya kpd istriny2
> > bahwa ia tidak lagi akan berlama2 di rumah Zainab, mencicipi 'madu'.
> >
> > Aisyah Sendiri Mengatakan, bahwa Muslimah adalah Wanita yang Paling Tidak
> > Berbahagia Dibandingkan Perempuan Manapun!!
> >
> > Narrated `Ikrima:
> > Rifa'a divorced his wife whereupon `AbdurRahman bin Az-Zubair Al-Qurazi
> > married her. 'Aisha said that the lady (came), wearing a green veil (and
> > complained to her (`Aisha) of her husband and showed her a green spot on
> > her skin caused by beating). It was the habit of ladies to support each
> > other, so when Allah's Apostle came, `Aisha said, "I have not seen any
> > woman suffering as much as the believing women. [/b]Look! Her skin is
> > greener than her clothes!" When `AbdurRahman heard that his wife had gone
> > to the Prophet, he came with his two sons from another wife. She said, "By
> > Allah! I have done no wrong to him but he is impotent and is as useless to
> > me as this," holding and showing the fringe of her garment, `Abdur-Rahman
> > said, "By Allah, O Allah's Apostle! She has told a lie! I am very strong
> > and can satisfy her but she is disobedient and wants to go back to Rifa'a."
> > Allah's Apostle said to her, "If that is your intention, then know that it
> > is unlawful for you to remarry Rifa'a unless `Abdur-Rahman has had sexual
> > intercourse with you." Then the Prophet saw two boys with `Abdur-Rahman and
> > asked (him), "Are these your sons?" On that `AbdurRahman said, "Yes." The
> > Prophet said, "You claim what you claim (i.e. that he is impotent)? But by
> > Allah, these boys resemble him as a crow resembles a crow," (Sahih
> > al-Bukhari, Volume 7, Book 72, Number 715)
> >
> >
> >
>
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